Dear Cait,

The rights of the Lesbians Gays Bi-Sexual Trans Questioning (LGBTQ) community hits extremely close to home.


My brother is a transgender man and my best friend is a homosexual man.


I believe that we are all entitled to have equal rights, regardless of your sexual preference, and or gender.


Nonetheless, I have slowly started to lose faith in Caitlyn Jenner. I would think as a Trans Woman she would want to be an advocate for the rights of the LGBTQ community but for her to endorse an extremist like Ted Cruz is just so baffling.


Does she not understand the kind of message she’s giving by supporting the ideals of a man who wants to imprison or kill those of the LGBTQ community? Ted Cruz’s extremist message only shows hate so why does Jenner want to be his “trans ambassador?”


He hates what you stand for Cait? He wants to set this community back, revert the right to get married to just the heterosexual couples, he’s does not want to progress for the LGBTQ community, he doesn’t even believe you(transgender citizens) exist. There is a major backlash in the LGBTQ community in the regards to Cait, she’s just glamorizing it all, and it’s not all about the dresses, skirts or makeup. Each person in this community has had to face such extreme difficulty.


Gender reassignment surgery is expensive and luckily for you, you were able to under go it all in swift time frame. My brother on the other hand had top surgery two years ago and it was one of the most liberating things he’s undergone, this May, after saving a lot of money, he will finally has his gender reassignment surgery. This is what we should be capturing, not your ideals of the struggle it is to be a woman.


In Caitlyn Jenner’s interview with Buzzfeed she stated,


“The hardest thing about being a woman is figuring out what to wear,” um no that is not the hardest part of being a woman.


What about the tampon tax, having to pay taxes on purchasing feminine hygiene products, or not being paid the same as our male counterparts, or even so not being represented in our own government?


But I digress.


The importance of equal rights means so much to everyone in this nation and for Jenner to show support for someone who wants to take away the rights of her fellow LGBTQ is just shameful. Open your eyes Jenner, support someone who wants progression not some righteous fascist who hates this community.


Baking Babe – Green Velvet Cake

The Ultimate Red (GREEN) Velvet Cake

I have been craving for a slice of really good red velvet cake, I went to Vons and Sprouts and I just didn’t feel like they met my expectations. So, I Googled Red Velvet Cake online and found a recipe from the New York Times, specifically their cooking portion. I had most of the ingredients at home except for vinegar and buttermilk, buttermilk was the hardest to find, I suggest asking for help instead of staring into the diary section. This recipe has to be the best, best, best red velvet cake recipe I have ever used. On a side note, instead of using red food coloring I used a tablespoon of both green and blue, just because it was St. Patrick’s Day Weekend.



  • 1/2 cup of butter at room temperature
  • 3 tablespoons cocoa powder, divided
  • 1 ½ cups of sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 2 teaspoons of vanilla
  • 2 tablespoons of red food coloring
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 2 ½ cups flours (sifted)
  • 1 cup whole buttermilk
  • 1 tablespoon of vinegar



  1. Heat the oven to 350 degrees. Prepare cake pans but lightly buttering and sprinkling 1 tablespoon of cocoa powder, taping away an excess.
  2. Cream butter and sugar together, adding eggs one at a time until incorporated. Mix in the vanilla.
  3. In a separate bowl, make a paste of the remaining cocoa powder and food coloring, blending into butter mixture.
  4. Sift together remaining dry ingredients. Add the dry ingredients and buttermilk in 2 separate batches. In the last batch of buttermilk, mix in the vinegar before adding to the batter. Mix until blended (very crucial).
  5. Divide batter among 3 pans and bake for about 20 to 25 minutes. Cool on a rack completely.


Cream Cheese Frosting


  • 1 packages cream cheese frosting, softened
  • ½ cup butter, softened
  • 2 cups confectioner’s sugar, sifted
  • 1 ½ teaspoons vanilla



  1. Cream the cream cheese with electric mixer
  2. Add in butter and cream together with cream cheese until light and fluffy
  3. Adding confectioner’s sugar, half a cup at a time. After each cup has been incorporated, turn the mixer onto the highest speed setting and for about 10 seconds to lighten the frosting
  4. Add in vanilla and cream until well-blended, light and fluffy.

It’s Okay To Be A Feminist

Feminist – Advocating social, political, legal and economic rights for women equal to those of men.


A woman in this day and age will be mocked and judged for stating that she is a Feminist. Feminists over the years have received such a bad reputation often being called man hating lesbians who think they’re better then men.


I feel like I can openly define myself as a feminist, not a very good one, but at least I can say that I’m comfortable being one. I believe that we as women should be deemed equal to our male counterparts; we should have equal pay for the same type of work and not be viewed weaker because we’re women.


It was kind of eye opening when discussing this with my fiancé, I’ve never pegged him to be the type to bleatingly disapprove of me being Feminist. On our drive home from picking me up we had a half heated argument, he blurting out the misconceptions of what it means to be a feminist.


No am I not a man hater, no that does not mean I’m a new found lesbian, no that does not mean I will dress like a man.


It pissed me off to see him have these views, he made it seem as if wanting to be equal to him was to be undesirable.


Just recently I started reading essays on Feminism and one that really caught my attention was “Bad Feminist,” by Roxy Gay. From what I took, there is still a lot of stigma with being addressed as a Feminist. Gay wrote about that the many women who have accomplished so much don’t want to be associate with the term Feminist because they believe Feminist have radical views. It irked me, it really irked me to see that women of their position and stature not define themselves as Feminists, in fear that they will no longer be desired and liked.


I then read the speech made by Emma Watson, a woman in the public eye. Her speech was so refreshing, so honest and resonates so much into our modern day.


She started “HeForShe,” a movement for Gender Equality.


The movement invites men to lobby with women so that together we can have equality. It’s hard to describe why I feel this matters, I just know deep in my heart and soul that it does. I know that we as people should not be treated differently because of our sex. I believe that it should be okay to break free from the Gender Norms placed upon us at birth, to accept strong and independent women without calling her a butch or calling a man who is sensitive and emotional a fag.


Watson states,

“We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes, but I can see that they are, and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have control, women won’t have to be controlled.


Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not, and start defining ourselves as who we are, we can all be freer, and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.”


Feminists want equality, not to be treated better or differently, but the same. Let’s give back a positive outlook for the future feminists of our time. Don’t let the misconstrued definitions of feminism deter you from your basic right to be treated as an equal.


Real Reasons Why We’re Late…

  1. I didn’t really want to come but other plans fell through.
  2. My dog was just too cute to leave.
  3. I couldn’t choose which lipstick color to wear.
  4. Snapchat had a fun new filter that I had to try a couple hundred times.
  5. I decided to eat a snack before heading out to dinner.
  6. I wanted you guys to miss me so much that when I arrived it would be an ARRIVAL.
  7. I was singing too loud in the car and I didn’t hear Siri’s directions and got lost.
  8. My selfie game was way too strong and I had to document my awesomeness.
  9. The idea of leaving my comfy house in my comfy pjs almost had me stay home.
  10. I started watching Gilmore Girls and didn’t realize how fast time flew.