Sister, Sister

Being a teenager in the early 00’s was pretty horrific, being a teen in any era must have been horrific. The non-stop anxiety of whether or not you were good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough. Thinking about it makes me want to revert into a fetal position.


You can describe my sense of style at the age of 15 as punk-ish and I believe the term was “scene queen,” I look back at my choice of outfits now and I wonder why my parents let me leave the house! I mean I sewed my jeans skinny, way before skinny jeans were in. I layered multi color pearls around my neck and adorned my white jacket with safety pins, band pins and patches. I don’t know about you but I thought I looked pretty cute. I even cut my hair short and razored the very top to look cooler. My make up was very minimal when it came to face powder, but my eyeliner and lashes were wicked scene.


Even in my garb I always found myself fascinated with the love of fashion and style. I read Teen Vogue religiously and watched as new trends moved forward, ultimately helping me find my sense of me. My very very first style icons had to be Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen. I mean I was growing up as they were, just a lot richer. Let’s enjoy these amazing fashion moments that is Mary-Kate and Ashley!



For the Love of Carrot Cake


I have found a new love in my baking skills and after having carrot cake at the movie theater this past weekend, I thought that I could definitely bake my own. Pinterest is completely addicting and after some review I finally found the perfect receipt for carrot cake, I choose recipes based of time and ability. I am not professionally trained but I love cooking so it’s always really fun for me to try things out and have my fiancé taste them for me.


Fact – I rarely try my own cooking because I am very critical of everything, so if I find fault in something I always feel necessary to throw it away. Bryan, my fiancé, often tells me I’m crazy for not trying out my own food, because he thinks I am a great cook.


This carrot cake I tried for myself and it was absolutely delicious, it was extremely moist and when I brought it to our Memorial Day party it was gone within minutes. People were having seconds and I barely even had a chance to taste it, but when I did, I knew I did a great job.


Carrot Cake Ingredients

  • 2 Cups All Purpose Flour
  • 1½ Cups Sugar
  • 1 tsp of Baking Powder
  • 1 tsp of Baking Soda
  • 1 tsp of Salt
  • 1 tsp of Cinnamon
  • 3 Cups of Grated Carrots – 4 Large Carrots Peeled and Grated through a Cheese Grater
  • 1 Cup of Vegetable Oil
  • 4 Eggs


Cake Instructions

  1. Set the oven at 325 Degrees F
  2. Sift the dry ingredients together
  3. Incorporate grated carrots, oil and eggs *Do not worry if the mixture looks too wet, you’re doing just fine.
  4. Pour into your favorite baking dish.
  5. Set your timer at 50 Minutes, depending on the size of your baking dish and the heat of your oven, you’ll be able to determine whether or not you need to keep it in 10-15 minutes more. I still use toothpicks to determine whether or not the cake is ready.
  6. Once your cake has cooled decorate it as you please, I whipped up some good ole cream cheese frosting


It did take 15 extra minutes to bake my cake, but like I said it can be your oven or baking ware not retaining enough heat.

Cream Cheese Ingredients

  • 1 Brick of Cream Cheese
  • ¼ Cup of Butter – Room Temperature
  • 1½ tsp of Vanilla
  • 2 Cups of Confectioner’s Sugar


Cream Cheese Frosting Instructions

  1. With your electric beaters, beat together cream cheese and butter until well blended.
  2. Adding your confectioners sugar half a cup at a time, you don’t want clumps, increase rate if it gets clumpy or use spatula to even it out
  3. Add 1 ½ tsp of vanilla and blend again



VIOLA you’re all done. I hope you get to try this recipe out for yourself and let me know what you think.

SkinnyGirl vs Tipsy Girl

Bethenny Frankel pretty much revived Bravo’s Real Housewives of New York City, the seasons she was wasn’t there I refused to partake in it and in the brief moments that I did I was highly disappointed!


Can we talk about last night’s episode now?!


In last weeks previews you see that Bethenny confronts Sonja Morgan after the diabolical which was Sonja’s birthday/album release party, just kidding but I do expect that to happen in the near future, she was actually confronting her on Morgan’s attempt at dipping her feet in the alcohol bizz.


Basically naming her rose “company” Tipsy Girl…ring any bells to any of you!? If you have been living under a rock or have never tried her tasty anything, Bethenny has a huge brand named SKINNY GIRL! Come on Sonja, you’re not dumb, you must have known that this would raise questions with the cast and the rest of the world. I mean Bethenny did Skinny Girl Margaritas, Cocktails, Popcorn, Sparkling Water, pretty much everything and now Sonja is literally riding on her coat tails by even endorsing let alone owning a “company” called Tipsy Girl!
Why Sonja, why!? Although Benthenny was really laying it on her last night, not once did I feel bad for Sonja. Yes you want to get back to where you were before, but does that seriously mean betraying a friend and if you’re so concerned with your finances should you be out drinking so much?! What pissed me off the most was when their conversation is over and the crocodile tears have dried and you see her walking into the elevator saying, “So now I can’t do pocket books because Luann does them?” Ugh Sonja, you’re not fooling anyone.


Bethenny you’re better off, but on a side note, oh my god I definitely want to work for Bethenny or be Bethenny!

A Letter to My Sister

Dear Kathyrine,


Hello, it’s been such a long time since we’ve talked last and there are so many things I just want to say to you. First, I want to say how sorry I am to have missed so many important things in your life, like your high school graduation, your very first boyfriend, your college graduation and most importantly, I’ve missed you. I still don’t understand what had happened to our friendship, our sisterhood, everything, but I hope that we can put that in the past because you are so important to me.


Mommy and Daddy have said time and time again that it will take some time for you to come around, I have tried to be so patient, but I miss my little sister, I miss you so much and it is so sad because I know nothing about you now. I never want to wish this kind of pain and hurt on anyone, because through these years it’s felt like I’ve lost some part of me and it was because you have been missing from my life.


I am so proud of the woman you’ve become and what you’ve accomplished, the first in our Family to graduate from college, that is such a great honor and I am proud of you. Thank you for taking the place of being the big sister to Kristine and Kisha, because they have been able to look up to someone with so much ambition and drive, something that I lack, I look up to you. My genius little sister who didn’t give a shit about the opinions of others, I wanted so bad to be like you, strong willed and smart. I looked up to you and gloat about you and your accomplishments to my friends, to Bryan and anyone who’d listen.


I’m getting married next year, to Bryan and man does he make me so happy. He’s really ambitious and strong willed like you, mommy and daddy really like him, KC too and maybe even Kisha. Bryan is really great, and when he says hi to you he’s not trying to be an ass, he’s honestly trying to break this tension that has been built up for so many years. It’s so funny, when Kisha was sick and we had to pick she and mommy from the Naval Hospital, all Kisha wanted to do was go back home, but mommy forgot her keys. Bryan climbed up the wall and got in through a window to let mommy and Kisha back into the house. Kisha thanked him and he was so happy because he thought that his efforts were finally making some progress. That’s what I want, a little progress, nothing too crazy, not just yet at least, but it would make me so happy to have you attend our wedding. Obviously it would break my heart to not have you come but in the long run I think I would understand.


I love you very much and I wish that things weren’t like this; I wish you and I had the same relationship we had back when we were young girls. Now we’re both women trying to find our place in this world, but I would out of everything love if we could make amends, I want to make this effort because life can be hard especially without my sister.


I love you, thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I hope it finds you well and I hope that there is still a place in your heart for me.


Love Always,



Buy Me

If I weren’t saving and spending money on wedding things, I would be shopping more often. When I think about it, if I didn’t buy anything Free People last year I could have bought a $1200 wedding dress, but to each their own, I don’t do drugs, I shop Free People.

Product Image: Julia Blouse

Free People “Julia” Blouse – $108

Product Image: Dancing in the Moonlight Top

Free People “Dancing in the Moonlight” – $168

Product Image: Retro Romance Top

Free People “Retro Romance” – $88

Product Image: Sylvia Mini Dress

Free People “Sylvia Mini Dress” – $168

Hair Distress

I am not so sure if I should be concerned about this but a couple of months ago, my fiancé noticed that I had a little bald spot on my head, I laughed it off because I have had long and luscious hair ever since I can remember.


Today as I was getting ready for work, I was in the bathroom doing my makeup and I noticed that I had a very strange soft, hairless oblong spot on my scalp. I felt a sense of fear rush through my body, my hair was my crowning glory and now, I am fear that the one thing that made me feel beautiful would suddenly be taken away from me.


I’m touching my hair more often now, it’s only been one day, I know that my mom has really fine hair so I am hoping that this is just one little spot and it will start to grow back soon. I hadn’t noticed it before so I am hoping that I can just wait it out, eat healthier, stress less and work out more. I’m afraid, because my hair is the only thing that makes me feel beautiful.

Coachella Coachella

I had major Coachella FOMO over the weekend, yeah the musical line ups were so good, but all I wanted to do was partake in the Fashion Venture that is Coachella.

Thanks to Snapchat and all of the other social media apps out there I was so excited to see all the the outfits everyone was wearing. Some outfits were classic music festival style, cut off denim shorts, body suit and flowy kimono! I am all for the whole festival vibe, but there were some really really good fashionistas I need to copy right away! See my favorite outfits from Coachella’s First Weekend!

Ashley Benson in Lover and Friends Star Print Dress $180.00

Emma Roberts in N by Nicholas Denim Button Up Dress $435.00

Dear Cait,

The rights of the Lesbians Gays Bi-Sexual Trans Questioning (LGBTQ) community hits extremely close to home.


My brother is a transgender man and my best friend is a homosexual man.


I believe that we are all entitled to have equal rights, regardless of your sexual preference, and or gender.


Nonetheless, I have slowly started to lose faith in Caitlyn Jenner. I would think as a Trans Woman she would want to be an advocate for the rights of the LGBTQ community but for her to endorse an extremist like Ted Cruz is just so baffling.


Does she not understand the kind of message she’s giving by supporting the ideals of a man who wants to imprison or kill those of the LGBTQ community? Ted Cruz’s extremist message only shows hate so why does Jenner want to be his “trans ambassador?”


He hates what you stand for Cait? He wants to set this community back, revert the right to get married to just the heterosexual couples, he’s does not want to progress for the LGBTQ community, he doesn’t even believe you(transgender citizens) exist. There is a major backlash in the LGBTQ community in the regards to Cait, she’s just glamorizing it all, and it’s not all about the dresses, skirts or makeup. Each person in this community has had to face such extreme difficulty.


Gender reassignment surgery is expensive and luckily for you, you were able to under go it all in swift time frame. My brother on the other hand had top surgery two years ago and it was one of the most liberating things he’s undergone, this May, after saving a lot of money, he will finally has his gender reassignment surgery. This is what we should be capturing, not your ideals of the struggle it is to be a woman.


In Caitlyn Jenner’s interview with Buzzfeed she stated,


“The hardest thing about being a woman is figuring out what to wear,” um no that is not the hardest part of being a woman.


What about the tampon tax, having to pay taxes on purchasing feminine hygiene products, or not being paid the same as our male counterparts, or even so not being represented in our own government?


But I digress.


The importance of equal rights means so much to everyone in this nation and for Jenner to show support for someone who wants to take away the rights of her fellow LGBTQ is just shameful. Open your eyes Jenner, support someone who wants progression not some righteous fascist who hates this community.

Baking Babe – Green Velvet Cake

The Ultimate Red (GREEN) Velvet Cake

I have been craving for a slice of really good red velvet cake, I went to Vons and Sprouts and I just didn’t feel like they met my expectations. So, I Googled Red Velvet Cake online and found a recipe from the New York Times, specifically their cooking portion. I had most of the ingredients at home except for vinegar and buttermilk, buttermilk was the hardest to find, I suggest asking for help instead of staring into the diary section. This recipe has to be the best, best, best red velvet cake recipe I have ever used. On a side note, instead of using red food coloring I used a tablespoon of both green and blue, just because it was St. Patrick’s Day Weekend.



  • 1/2 cup of butter at room temperature
  • 3 tablespoons cocoa powder, divided
  • 1 ½ cups of sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 2 teaspoons of vanilla
  • 2 tablespoons of red food coloring
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 2 ½ cups flours (sifted)
  • 1 cup whole buttermilk
  • 1 tablespoon of vinegar



  1. Heat the oven to 350 degrees. Prepare cake pans but lightly buttering and sprinkling 1 tablespoon of cocoa powder, taping away an excess.
  2. Cream butter and sugar together, adding eggs one at a time until incorporated. Mix in the vanilla.
  3. In a separate bowl, make a paste of the remaining cocoa powder and food coloring, blending into butter mixture.
  4. Sift together remaining dry ingredients. Add the dry ingredients and buttermilk in 2 separate batches. In the last batch of buttermilk, mix in the vinegar before adding to the batter. Mix until blended (very crucial).
  5. Divide batter among 3 pans and bake for about 20 to 25 minutes. Cool on a rack completely.


Cream Cheese Frosting


  • 1 packages cream cheese frosting, softened
  • ½ cup butter, softened
  • 2 cups confectioner’s sugar, sifted
  • 1 ½ teaspoons vanilla



  1. Cream the cream cheese with electric mixer
  2. Add in butter and cream together with cream cheese until light and fluffy
  3. Adding confectioner’s sugar, half a cup at a time. After each cup has been incorporated, turn the mixer onto the highest speed setting and for about 10 seconds to lighten the frosting
  4. Add in vanilla and cream until well-blended, light and fluffy.

It’s Okay To Be A Feminist

Feminist – Advocating social, political, legal and economic rights for women equal to those of men.


A woman in this day and age will be mocked and judged for stating that she is a Feminist. Feminists over the years have received such a bad reputation often being called man hating lesbians who think they’re better then men.


I feel like I can openly define myself as a feminist, not a very good one, but at least I can say that I’m comfortable being one. I believe that we as women should be deemed equal to our male counterparts; we should have equal pay for the same type of work and not be viewed weaker because we’re women.


It was kind of eye opening when discussing this with my fiancé, I’ve never pegged him to be the type to bleatingly disapprove of me being Feminist. On our drive home from picking me up we had a half heated argument, he blurting out the misconceptions of what it means to be a feminist.


No am I not a man hater, no that does not mean I’m a new found lesbian, no that does not mean I will dress like a man.


It pissed me off to see him have these views, he made it seem as if wanting to be equal to him was to be undesirable.


Just recently I started reading essays on Feminism and one that really caught my attention was “Bad Feminist,” by Roxy Gay. From what I took, there is still a lot of stigma with being addressed as a Feminist. Gay wrote about that the many women who have accomplished so much don’t want to be associate with the term Feminist because they believe Feminist have radical views. It irked me, it really irked me to see that women of their position and stature not define themselves as Feminists, in fear that they will no longer be desired and liked.


I then read the speech made by Emma Watson, a woman in the public eye. Her speech was so refreshing, so honest and resonates so much into our modern day.


She started “HeForShe,” a movement for Gender Equality.


The movement invites men to lobby with women so that together we can have equality. It’s hard to describe why I feel this matters, I just know deep in my heart and soul that it does. I know that we as people should not be treated differently because of our sex. I believe that it should be okay to break free from the Gender Norms placed upon us at birth, to accept strong and independent women without calling her a butch or calling a man who is sensitive and emotional a fag.


Watson states,

“We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes, but I can see that they are, and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have control, women won’t have to be controlled.


Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not, and start defining ourselves as who we are, we can all be freer, and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.”


Feminists want equality, not to be treated better or differently, but the same. Let’s give back a positive outlook for the future feminists of our time. Don’t let the misconstrued definitions of feminism deter you from your basic right to be treated as an equal.