Hair Today, Rogaine Tomorrow?

I wrote my initial blog Hair Distress almost 2 months ago and I am just writing a little follow up.


My hair has always been my identifier in the crowd; I have always had long luscious shinny black hair that was naturally straight. When Bryan saw the little patchy oblong spot of baldness I brushed it off, it was only a few months later when I noticed it for myself. It was horrifying to see that a bald spot on the side of my head.


I don’t have any current photos, but you can definitely see the hair follicles trying to come out. Just recently maybe a week ago I noticed a small balding spot on my hair line as well, it’s not noticeable because I part my hair straight down the middle, but when I fuss with my actual hair you can see a little gap. This spot was not like the one on the side of my head, this one was clean, no follicles in sight and it makes me cringe.


I talked to my mom when I first noticed the spotting and she said that stress can trigger it, her hair was thinning with age but there was no sign of alopecia amongst anyone on my family line.


Today, as I was reading through my junk mail, a Free People blog reviewed the benefits of Tea Tree Oil, on the bottom of the article it had a recipe for a DIY Tea Tree Scalp, they’ve stated that tea tree oil will promote hair re-growth. I am hoping, crossing all fingers, toes, legs and arms hoping that this will ease my nervous mind. Wish me luck, I will post updates soon!



Here’s the recipe!

DIY Tea Tree Scalp Oil


10-15 drops tea tree oil

Carrier oil (jojoba, olive, avocado, almond…)

Resealable light-blocking bottle

Fill your glass bottle 3/4 of the way full with your carrier oil. Add the tea tree oil and mix.

To use: Warm a few drops of tea tree mixture between your palms. Massage oil into scalp. Leave on for an hour or two or up to overnight, then shampoo and condition as normal. Repeat regularly to stimulate the scalp, promote hair growth and keep scalp problems, like dandruff, away.

Source: Wellness Encyclopedia: Talking Tea Tree + Hydrating Hair Oil


Road Trippp

Last week Bryan and I took an Anniversary Vacation and it was definitely memorable!


With our new schedules, we’ve been able to spend a lot more time together but this time together was very much needed. We packed up our fur babies, Dakota and Kodiak along with 4 days of clothing and off we went. Bryan’s parents live in LA so we use their home as a base camp, spending our first day and night before a very long drive to San Francisco!


Road Trip Do’s and Don’t’s

  • DO top off all your fluids in your car – You don’t want to overheat anything
  • DO bring your own water – Gas Stations charge 25 cents for Ice Cups
  • DO bring sun protection – Sunglasses and Sun Block
  • DO bring hand sanitizing wipes or gel – We were in a Gas Station where the toilet had flies
  • DO have good tunes Driving for long periods of time can be draining, good music always helps
  • DO use the restroom at every stop Go even if you don’t need to, it’ll save you from the pain later
  • Do keep your navigational devices and phones charged – It will not be fun to have dead electronics
  • Do have treats for those fur babies if they get a little restless. Fortunately Kodiak and Dakota slept through the drive.
  • DO NOT over spend on snacks – I learned the hard way, Bryan and I took turns driving to San Francisco and we honestly did not have time to eat snacks along the way, someone was always sleeping
  • DO NOT use your card at remote gas stations – I carried cash specifically for this reason
  • DO NOT be a “Negative Nancy” – Road trips are long and tiring but the journey is the best part


Road Trips in general can be very stressful, make sure you are driving a reliable car that you know can make the journey to your destination. It’s fucking terrifying to drive in brand new city and not know if your car will make the drive through. Especially with short trips you want to make it every single stop and listen to your schedule, but what’s the point? You shouldn’t hurry to get to your destination, because the journey is the best part.

Women Against Rape

I cried yesterday, cried at my desk and thought how cruel the world could be. How innocence and self love can be tainted by an act that can never be forgotten.


You might all know her story by now, a twenty-three year old woman raped and assaulted by a 19 year old “swim star.” The outcome of the trial was disgusting, degrading and absolutely horrific. To give a rapist a 6 month sentence in jail?! That’s absolutely absurd; the punishment did not fit the crime in any way. How this judge was able to do this, how was he able to determine the severity of the crime?


Perhaps if this 19 year old “man” was Black, Mexican, or Asian, this ruling would sway a different way?


According to the judge, “A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him (the rapist Brock Allen Turner). I think he will not be a danger to others.”


Not a danger to others?! He raped a woman who was drunk and could not fend for herself let alone consent to having sex behind a dumpster? This is how sociopaths are created; they get away with their first crime and feel as if they can do it over and over again. I would rather no other woman figure out the hard way whether or not he is a danger to society. The bullshit he stating about going from school to school to educate others on drinking is a hard laugh. What school would allow a sex offender to walk the halls with their students to educate them on how not to rape?! I think that no one will heed advice from the likes of Turner.


This is my message from me to Turner:


What kind of world are you living where you felt as if your actions were dignified? Who taught you that it was okay for you to take advantage of a incoherent woman who instead of raping you could have helped? You are a swim hero but now you’ll forever be branded as a rapist. Guess what, it wasn’t her fault, it was all yours. From an early age we are taught the difference between right and wrong, what happened in your upbringing? Did your parents let you get away with whatever you wanted? Were you always told that you can do no wrong? Imagine if you had a daughter and she went to a party and she was assaulted? Would you blame her? Ask that of your parents, if it were the other way around how would they feel? I don’t want you to ever get out of jail, I don’t want to know that you’re back with the rest of society. You disgust me and you disgust the rest of the world, stay in jail, go to prison. You are an absolute disgrace to everyone and I say everyone. I hope that when you’re in jail you look back at what you did and realize the severity of your actions. How it could have been prevented if you were a real man and not a boy. How dare you hurt a woman and belittle the trauma that she has felt and will forever feel. You are what is wrong with society, you are a rapist, understand that.


To the courageous young woman who let her story be told, I am sorry, I am sorry that this happened to you, I am sorry that the ruling wasn’t fair, I am sorry for your pain. There are countless strangers who have read your story and praise your strength. I hope you don’t’ let what happened to you determine your self worth because you are more than this! We stand by you forever and always.

Sister, Sister

Being a teenager in the early 00’s was pretty horrific, being a teen in any era must have been horrific. The non-stop anxiety of whether or not you were good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough. Thinking about it makes me want to revert into a fetal position.


You can describe my sense of style at the age of 15 as punk-ish and I believe the term was “scene queen,” I look back at my choice of outfits now and I wonder why my parents let me leave the house! I mean I sewed my jeans skinny, way before skinny jeans were in. I layered multi color pearls around my neck and adorned my white jacket with safety pins, band pins and patches. I don’t know about you but I thought I looked pretty cute. I even cut my hair short and razored the very top to look cooler. My make up was very minimal when it came to face powder, but my eyeliner and lashes were wicked scene.


Even in my garb I always found myself fascinated with the love of fashion and style. I read Teen Vogue religiously and watched as new trends moved forward, ultimately helping me find my sense of me. My very very first style icons had to be Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen. I mean I was growing up as they were, just a lot richer. Let’s enjoy these amazing fashion moments that is Mary-Kate and Ashley!


For the Love of Carrot Cake


I have found a new love in my baking skills and after having carrot cake at the movie theater this past weekend, I thought that I could definitely bake my own. Pinterest is completely addicting and after some review I finally found the perfect receipt for carrot cake, I choose recipes based of time and ability. I am not professionally trained but I love cooking so it’s always really fun for me to try things out and have my fiancé taste them for me.


Fact – I rarely try my own cooking because I am very critical of everything, so if I find fault in something I always feel necessary to throw it away. Bryan, my fiancé, often tells me I’m crazy for not trying out my own food, because he thinks I am a great cook.


This carrot cake I tried for myself and it was absolutely delicious, it was extremely moist and when I brought it to our Memorial Day party it was gone within minutes. People were having seconds and I barely even had a chance to taste it, but when I did, I knew I did a great job.


Carrot Cake Ingredients

  • 2 Cups All Purpose Flour
  • 1½ Cups Sugar
  • 1 tsp of Baking Powder
  • 1 tsp of Baking Soda
  • 1 tsp of Salt
  • 1 tsp of Cinnamon
  • 3 Cups of Grated Carrots – 4 Large Carrots Peeled and Grated through a Cheese Grater
  • 1 Cup of Vegetable Oil
  • 4 Eggs


Cake Instructions

  1. Set the oven at 325 Degrees F
  2. Sift the dry ingredients together
  3. Incorporate grated carrots, oil and eggs *Do not worry if the mixture looks too wet, you’re doing just fine.
  4. Pour into your favorite baking dish.
  5. Set your timer at 50 Minutes, depending on the size of your baking dish and the heat of your oven, you’ll be able to determine whether or not you need to keep it in 10-15 minutes more. I still use toothpicks to determine whether or not the cake is ready.
  6. Once your cake has cooled decorate it as you please, I whipped up some good ole cream cheese frosting


It did take 15 extra minutes to bake my cake, but like I said it can be your oven or baking ware not retaining enough heat.

Cream Cheese Ingredients

  • 1 Brick of Cream Cheese
  • ¼ Cup of Butter – Room Temperature
  • 1½ tsp of Vanilla
  • 2 Cups of Confectioner’s Sugar


Cream Cheese Frosting Instructions

  1. With your electric beaters, beat together cream cheese and butter until well blended.
  2. Adding your confectioners sugar half a cup at a time, you don’t want clumps, increase rate if it gets clumpy or use spatula to even it out
  3. Add 1 ½ tsp of vanilla and blend again



VIOLA you’re all done. I hope you get to try this recipe out for yourself and let me know what you think.

SkinnyGirl vs Tipsy Girl

Bethenny Frankel pretty much revived Bravo’s Real Housewives of New York City, the seasons she was wasn’t there I refused to partake in it and in the brief moments that I did I was highly disappointed!


Can we talk about last night’s episode now?!


In last weeks previews you see that Bethenny confronts Sonja Morgan after the diabolical which was Sonja’s birthday/album release party, just kidding but I do expect that to happen in the near future, she was actually confronting her on Morgan’s attempt at dipping her feet in the alcohol bizz.


Basically naming her rose “company” Tipsy Girl…ring any bells to any of you!? If you have been living under a rock or have never tried her tasty anything, Bethenny has a huge brand named SKINNY GIRL! Come on Sonja, you’re not dumb, you must have known that this would raise questions with the cast and the rest of the world. I mean Bethenny did Skinny Girl Margaritas, Cocktails, Popcorn, Sparkling Water, pretty much everything and now Sonja is literally riding on her coat tails by even endorsing let alone owning a “company” called Tipsy Girl!
Why Sonja, why!? Although Benthenny was really laying it on her last night, not once did I feel bad for Sonja. Yes you want to get back to where you were before, but does that seriously mean betraying a friend and if you’re so concerned with your finances should you be out drinking so much?! What pissed me off the most was when their conversation is over and the crocodile tears have dried and you see her walking into the elevator saying, “So now I can’t do pocket books because Luann does them?” Ugh Sonja, you’re not fooling anyone.


Bethenny you’re better off, but on a side note, oh my god I definitely want to work for Bethenny or be Bethenny!

A Letter to My Sister

Dear Kathyrine,


Hello, it’s been such a long time since we’ve talked last and there are so many things I just want to say to you. First, I want to say how sorry I am to have missed so many important things in your life, like your high school graduation, your very first boyfriend, your college graduation and most importantly, I’ve missed you. I still don’t understand what had happened to our friendship, our sisterhood, everything, but I hope that we can put that in the past because you are so important to me.


Mommy and Daddy have said time and time again that it will take some time for you to come around, I have tried to be so patient, but I miss my little sister, I miss you so much and it is so sad because I know nothing about you now. I never want to wish this kind of pain and hurt on anyone, because through these years it’s felt like I’ve lost some part of me and it was because you have been missing from my life.


I am so proud of the woman you’ve become and what you’ve accomplished, the first in our Family to graduate from college, that is such a great honor and I am proud of you. Thank you for taking the place of being the big sister to Kristine and Kisha, because they have been able to look up to someone with so much ambition and drive, something that I lack, I look up to you. My genius little sister who didn’t give a shit about the opinions of others, I wanted so bad to be like you, strong willed and smart. I looked up to you and gloat about you and your accomplishments to my friends, to Bryan and anyone who’d listen.


I’m getting married next year, to Bryan and man does he make me so happy. He’s really ambitious and strong willed like you, mommy and daddy really like him, KC too and maybe even Kisha. Bryan is really great, and when he says hi to you he’s not trying to be an ass, he’s honestly trying to break this tension that has been built up for so many years. It’s so funny, when Kisha was sick and we had to pick she and mommy from the Naval Hospital, all Kisha wanted to do was go back home, but mommy forgot her keys. Bryan climbed up the wall and got in through a window to let mommy and Kisha back into the house. Kisha thanked him and he was so happy because he thought that his efforts were finally making some progress. That’s what I want, a little progress, nothing too crazy, not just yet at least, but it would make me so happy to have you attend our wedding. Obviously it would break my heart to not have you come but in the long run I think I would understand.


I love you very much and I wish that things weren’t like this; I wish you and I had the same relationship we had back when we were young girls. Now we’re both women trying to find our place in this world, but I would out of everything love if we could make amends, I want to make this effort because life can be hard especially without my sister.


I love you, thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I hope it finds you well and I hope that there is still a place in your heart for me.


Love Always,



Buy Me

If I weren’t saving and spending money on wedding things, I would be shopping more often. When I think about it, if I didn’t buy anything Free People last year I could have bought a $1200 wedding dress, but to each their own, I don’t do drugs, I shop Free People.

Product Image: Julia Blouse

Free People “Julia” Blouse – $108

Product Image: Dancing in the Moonlight Top

Free People “Dancing in the Moonlight” – $168

Product Image: Retro Romance Top

Free People “Retro Romance” – $88

Product Image: Sylvia Mini Dress

Free People “Sylvia Mini Dress” – $168

Hair Distress

I am not so sure if I should be concerned about this but a couple of months ago, my fiancé noticed that I had a little bald spot on my head, I laughed it off because I have had long and luscious hair ever since I can remember.


Today as I was getting ready for work, I was in the bathroom doing my makeup and I noticed that I had a very strange soft, hairless oblong spot on my scalp. I felt a sense of fear rush through my body, my hair was my crowning glory and now, I am fear that the one thing that made me feel beautiful would suddenly be taken away from me.


I’m touching my hair more often now, it’s only been one day, I know that my mom has really fine hair so I am hoping that this is just one little spot and it will start to grow back soon. I hadn’t noticed it before so I am hoping that I can just wait it out, eat healthier, stress less and work out more. I’m afraid, because my hair is the only thing that makes me feel beautiful.

Coachella Coachella

I had major Coachella FOMO over the weekend, yeah the musical line ups were so good, but all I wanted to do was partake in the Fashion Venture that is Coachella.

Thanks to Snapchat and all of the other social media apps out there I was so excited to see all the the outfits everyone was wearing. Some outfits were classic music festival style, cut off denim shorts, body suit and flowy kimono! I am all for the whole festival vibe, but there were some really really good fashionistas I need to copy right away! See my favorite outfits from Coachella’s First Weekend!

Ashley Benson in Lover and Friends Star Print Dress $180.00

Emma Roberts in N by Nicholas Denim Button Up Dress $435.00